"There was a time, when I first found out I was pregnant with twins, that I saw only a state of conflict. When I looked at theater and parenthood, I saw only war, competing loyalties, and I thought my writing life was over....
"I found that life intruding on writing was in fact, life. And that, tempting as it may be for a writer who is also a parent, one must not think of life as an intrusion. A the end of the day, writing has very little to do with writing, and much to do with life. And life, by definition, is not an intrusion."
Sarah Ruhl, 100 Essays I Don't Have Time to Write
In the spring of 2016, pregnant with my second child, I'd grown weary of the perrenial articles about motherhood spelling the death of writing careers, and especially of the message this sends to new mothers who are writers: you are doomed, you are alone, the things that you love most and that in many ways define you are at odds with each other, etc.
At a friend's book party, I spoke with another writer, her 10-month-old snuggled in a carrier on her chest.
I understood how universal this experience of .
And yet, I've found myself as a writer since giving birth to my first child in January, 2012. I knew that I could help support other women by creating a community and structure
If you're not willing to resign yourself to the commonly pedalled belief that motherhood equals the death of creative work, I hope you'll find a home here.
I decided to do something about it. Sure, this was hard, but it's not impossible--and it would be a lot easier with support.
Writing Through Motherhood is a supportive, low-pressure community and structure for women with tiny children to find a writing practice that works for them--to combine a mother's group and writer's group where both identities are welcomed wholly and simultaneously; to read and write and reflect together on writing, parenthood, and their intersections; to practice strategies for continuing a writing practice when the schedules and pacing that we're used to may be on-hold for a while; to take advantage of this generative, creative, sensitive time while being truthful about the accommodations that may be needed when things like planning and focus may feel like more of a challenge.
So many writers who become new mothers stop writing.